You just got hitched as a virgin and you are anxious about the next phase?

Boom!  Wedding night happens and in the heat of the moment, your spouse nudges your legs wide open for him. Wide! What for? How humiliating, you would wonder..

Sure, Mills and Boon, Harlequin Romance novels didn’t prepare you for this…this moment.

Yes, I know.  I once was in those heels and was gobsmacked!I remember  pondering, while at it , if my mom and  numerous mentors ; the spiritually upright Alhajas and MFM deaconesses, had to go through the same ordeal.

So, babes, you are not alone.  The shame of having your legs wide open will  disappear when you apply these tested and trusted life hacks.

Still shaken by its absurdity, grocery shopping, I would stare at the old women at the market stalls . Did they experience this nudging of legs? Definitely, my mind would whisper. How else would they have conceived,then had children, anyway?

[  ] SCENTED CANDLES AND SLOW MUSIC.          If you’re a romantic as I am, scented candles are must haves. The fragrance plus Boys 2 Men’s  On Bended  Knees from the speakers, sure sets you in the mood.

[  ] A CHILLED MUG OF BLENDED DATES,  PINEAPPLE, TIGERNUT AND COCONUT  WITH A SPLASH OF GORONTULA.           This is the banger! Trust me. You wouldn’t realise when you will WILLINGLY open your legs.

[  ] SLOW, SENSUAL BUBBLY BATH.         Draw up a bath with your spouse and enjoy sponging one another.  I loved doing this and  even as my hubby would laugh at me, he would still join. Soothing. Heavenly.

Before I knew these, the mortification was a lot,  the “how could I ‘s”? The “what would God think”? episodes. Now, I know better.

These were my go to hacks as a newly wedded virgin. So, tell me. What have your experiences been?  Did you welcome the nudge or was embarrassed?  Did your mind ponder or you relished it 🤔?  Have you tried any of these hacks ? Did they work for you too?  Hit me up in the comments section, would you?